Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say

Hello everyone. Been thinking lately. Thinking a lot. Its already afternoon, what makes this afternoon pretty extraordinary is it only happens once a week. It's a Sunday afternoon. Kinda feels bad especially when you know you're going to wake up early tomorrow after a good 2 day break. One good thing is this weekend I finally set my mind on finishing Metal Gear Solid 3: Snake Eater. After that on January I'll grab Assassin's Creed(Yes, that PS3 and X360 game) because it'll come out as a PC game sometime around January. Hey, not a bad time for gaming. After Assassin's Creed came out, and that PS3 dropped to $399.99, it's a good season for gaming. Enough of gaming. Should I move on to my topic? Well... Duh. I suppose I should.

Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say

Just this year we studied German Literature and so we have to find out a bit of their culture first. We discussed about unique traits and a very good trait was that they do that topic. The topic's in bold letters. No questions asked. What does this mean? Let's do an example...

John: Hey Mary, you want to go to the park and take a walk?
Mary: Uhhmmmm... Sure...
John: Are you sure?
Mary: Uhhhmmm... Yes?
John: Really?
Mary: Yes...
John: So let's go now?
Mary: Sure...
John: Are you sure you want to go?
Mary: Yes...
John: Okay, let's go now.

If they were not German, read the entire text. If they were, ignore the italicized text. Are you getting this? Haha. It's pretty simple. Once a German says something, they really mean it. I wish most people could be like that.

Well, that situation is connected to my topic, but it's not the exact topic. I want to stress the times we say we're okay. The times we say we're down with stuff. You know how most of the time when you want to say no you end up saying it's ok?

***Mary is extremely sad because of her failing grades. She is therefore crying.
John: Hey, you ok?
Mary: I'm ok.

Are we sometimes put in that situation? I think so. Most of us just say we're ok because of a few reasons:

1. You don't want anyone to pity you.
2. You want to make the person asking go away.
3. You have no choice but to answer that.
4. Majority thinks it that way.
5. You don't want to offend the person.
6. You don't want to make the person mad.
7. You care too much for the person.
8. You want to make the person happy.

Cany you think of other reasons? I think you can. These are a few I can name.

Sometimes people are too weak to step up for their own opinions and too shy to declare new ideas, so they resort with the "It's Okay" response. I'm like that sometimes. When people resort to that, when the end comes in an unhappy way, the same people who say "It's Okay" blames people out of nowhere despite saying that he agrees.

Usually, when I say I'm Okay, I'm really not. When I say it in a largely weak manner you should be a hundred percent sure - It's a No. There are even times when I try to say and force people to think I'm okay when I'm not. It's not always the case. To those of you who know me, take note of that.

Let's say why we should say "No" and not "It's Okay" in the 8 reasons above. There's one primary reason: It's because the person you answered to really will think it's okay for you. He/She will take it as a yes. There are however reasons made especially for each number.

1. Someone should comfort you in your sadness because you can't always handle situations on your own. As long as there is someone who wants to help, that's a big bonus. And when someone pities you at least that person may understand how you feel.

2. Okay, you shouldn't do that if you want to make the person go away because that is BAD.

3. You always have a choice. We were born with freedom and it comes with the right to choose. there is no person that didn't make a choice his entire life.

4. That majority might think the same way you're thinking. If you express how you really feel, then maybe people may come out and say that they think the same way you do.

5. This is a good thing, but sometimes you have to offend people to make them improve. People have to know their faults and problems because it's a good start to fixing his wrongs. Knowing is always best for a person.

6. If you just don't want to make the person mad, that's a really lame thing because you yourself might hide your own bad feelings and it might result to an almost the same thing which is full of rage.

7 and 8. When you care too much and you want to make the person happy, time will come when you will realize that you have left little room for your own hapiness.

You should say how you really feel about something because you might end up blaming yourself for just the fact that you didn't say no. Time will come when this topic becomes a huge factor in your life. It's when you drop on your knees regretting the time you said "It's Okay". At this stage of your life it may seem like nothing but liek I said, and like most things, it will come.

So when a person answers you "It's Okay", think first before you judge it's really okay. "It's Okay" has recently meant the same as "No".

When you want to answer "It's Okay" and really fell like its a "No", think about what would happen when you answer like that.

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That is all, thank you for reading my blog. I hope you learned something.