Caring Too Much

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Caring Too Much

This is one of the topics that I really have experience in. I think I can't go wrong. But that's just me. Of course, I'm not always right. And of course, I only said that to make people who are included in this topic, well, shut up.

I absolutely have no problem with people who care for others. I actually love 'em, because when a person's having any kind of breakdown, be it emotional or something else and you're there to "catch" them, that's cool. You're being unselfish.

That being said, the title will not really indicate which person I'm going to "take down". In my blog, there's a difference between the people I hate and the people I try to teach a lesson to.

Now, onto the problem. You see, caring too much has its downs, no matter how much people would look up and say to you you're such a kind person. In an exaggerated case, you might even be the toy of the person you care for, after for example, catching that person after a big emotional fall a year ago. "Do this for me, carry this for me, act like a dumbass". Oh sorry, that wasn't an exaggeration. That really happpen(s/ed).

Look. If you think that doesn't happen, look at very young kids. If their parents spoil them too much, they tend to be, well, uhhhhmmm... Spoiled. "Daddy, buy me this. Mommy, carry me! Daddy, let's go to Disneyland! Mommy, let's go to the park!" I hope you see now. There's quite a similarity.

The person cared for too much becomes spoiled, and that's a truth if that person can't appreciate. It's also true if that person, despite being overcared(is there such a word?!) for, did not recover from her/his breakdown. After about a year, that person can't let go. That's a big problem. That's why the person can't appreciate afterall. Because it's ineffective. There are A LOT of other reasons why a person can't appreciate. And, to tell you the truth, most people can't appreciate even if they say they do.

The spoiled person becomes a silent monster. Wow, you must be wondering if I had the right to say that. HOW?!

That person becomes, well, used to the fact that he/she is spoiled. She believes she can never lose, and that she's always the hero(ine). She also believes she's the know-all. Sorry I forgot the "/He" after the she's, it's just too long.

So, for example, a guy cares for a girl so much that after, like I said above, had an emotional breakdown, he "catches" her. After a year, he becomes a toy. So the girl has a rough year after her breakdown, after being left by someone she loved(gee, I don't know, could be a guy.). After a year, the girl hasn't recovered yet. She's still in love with that guy/person. After all the effort the guy did, the girl still can't appreciate.

Up until now, the girl still doesn't know what happened. "Why did he leave me?"

The guy tells her it's as simple as "I just don't love you". The girl thinks, "Unacceptable."

That's the problem with spoiled people. They never accept anything. They think it's all about themselves.

What happens in that example is that she destroys the images of the people she thinks are involved. They always want to win. No matter what. They become the silent monsters I told you. People like that don't directly destroy you. They destroy you by giving to the people your bad side.

They can't accept direct truths that are against them. Like if they're unwanted, if they're unloved. It can't be as simple as that for them. They always need a reason. Those two things are abstract and there's no real explanation.

They can't have everything they want. They can't take that. If they can't have what they want, they talk to everyone else. "What do you think of me? In your opinion, why [insert scenario here]?" If they don't get the answer, they cry and that's when they turn to silent monster mode. When they do that, there's no sign. You won't recognize it.

That's the problem with people who have monster tendencies. You never know if they really are monsters. They may look innocent, arguably beautiful, but then again, you can't judge a book by its cover. The inside may be bad.

That's why you can't care too much. You never know who would turn out to be a monster. You might even end turning them into monsters just because of your saintly trait. It's ironic, but that's how it is.

Just accept it.